Dari on the Go

Stage 1: Foundation

Ever since I was a little girl I knew I would be a world traveler. I remember a conversation with my dad (far and few) sitting on the couch telling him that I was ready to be on my own and should be traveling the world by now. He was like, “Dari you’re 9 years old, where do you think you’re supposed to be?”. And I pondered confidently of all the places I knew at the time and blurted out.. “Nevada” lmao. Why there? The world may never know. But in my mind, Nevada seemed like the furthest and most appropriate distance where my soul should be. And I knew it deep down. My dad soothed me by telling me that “Darielle, you have a lot of time, you are 9 years old at the moment and you are building the foundation of your life to sustain yourself. Take your time here and your day will come.” I rested.

20+ years later I am now 30 years old, turning 31 in a few months and about to enter the most free season of my life. Back in April the download came to me from God that I need to leave my beloved teaching and school counseling career, the one that I’ve worked for, built up and loved dearly for years, in order to complete my training stage and move on into my stage 2 (untitled because it hasn’t happened yet, but you can feel what’s coming next). I can hardly believe it, now I’m here, reflecting on all the time that I’ve had since that moment on the couch and I’m so proud of myself. My foundation feels strong and grounded, laden with experiences to draw from that will help me pursue the passion that has been burning, enduring in my heart all this time. I can hardly believe it, but I’m ready, and excited.

My goals for this stage are to live it beautifully, to the fullest intuitively and confident in myself like stage one. That was something I’ve always loved about me, I get fearless and run hard and fast towards anything I’ve ever set my mind to, with a giant ass smile on my face as I cross the finish lines. And don't forget always, ALWAYS in a look, or as my 9 year old self called it, an ~*ensemble*~. You betta recognizeeee lmao. I am excited to be fly, bold and fall in love, confidently fearless and engaged in the present.

I have learned tons throughout my life, both formally and informally about psychology, human design and our natural life cycles, which when looked at as a whole gives me a lot of grace and compassion for other people. People know not what they do not know, but all are born with the spirit of God in them, somewhere. Most times, scratch that, EVERYTIME, there is another side to the story.. another perspective that makes sense from the eyes of someone else, which explains the actions that seemed so egregious to you. This understanding, helps me know that things are never personal, people move in a way that makes sense to them with their feelings and knowledge at the time, even if it hurts yours. It’s up to you at that point to make your reasoning and ideas known, and then also do the energetic work to let that feeling flow THROUGH you. One should never let their feelings get stuck in their body, as many of us can do, as we are afraid to feel fully and release. But if a cut gets covered up by a Band-Aid and gets no air, it will sit, rot, fester and become gross underneath. Think and be honest now: How many festering sores do you have on you..?

This blog is a way for me to write, connect and create with myself, as I find that sharing my voice through written words has always felt good and made sense to me. I use journals frequently, just to jot down all my thoughts in fancy cursive handwriting, flex my handlettering skills and dream for the future. All any of us are trying to do is live our best lives out everyday and think solely about increasing the happiness in the current day, as this is the one that we are grateful for right now.

Someone described it to me as having your goals and dreams is like having a spoon of water held out in front you as you walk through a field of your favorite flowers. For me that resonates because I love sunflowers, however fill your field with whatever you love. Our job is to pay attention enough to hold the spoon of water steady and in front, paying attention not to sway too much in one direction or the other, and recognizing when it's time to drink that water and rejoice in it. Of course our spoon never stays empty, as long as we are alive we will have dreams and goals. It is in our human design, new ones come as we enter new stages in our lives. Simultaneously though, we are in a field a of sunflowers, bright, billowing and lovely! Our job is also to stop and look at each one. Like really deeply soak it in and admire its beauty, its serenity and its lesson that its trying to share. You’d be surprised how God’s grace exists all around us we are meant to stop and marvel. Whatever you pick up and learn along the way is yours to keep.

Keep your water firm and forward, and also marvel at each sunflower as you pass it. I don’t know about you but, I think I like this little life. Till next time, I gotta go.